15 Powerful Things Happy People Do

1 May

15 Powerful Things Happy People Do Differently

What is the difference between happy people and unhappy people? Of course, it may be very obvious, happy people are happy while unhappy people are unhappy, right? Well, that is correct, but we want to know what are the things that these people do differently and that is why, I have put together a list of things that HAPPY people do differently than UNHAPPY people.

1. LOVE vs. FEAR. Well, I can tell you for sure that those people who are really happy, FEAR less and LOVE a lot more. They see each moment, each challenge, each person as an opportunity to discover more about themselves and the world around them.

2. ACCEPTANCE vs. RESISTANCE. Happy people understand that you can’t really change a situation by resisting it, but you can definitely change it by accepting that it is there and by understanding that there might be a reason for its existence. When something unpleasant happens to them, they don’t try to fight it, knowing that this will make the situation even worse, but rather, they ask themselves questions like: What can I learn from this? How can I make this better? and they go from there, focusing on the positive rather than on the negative. They always seem to see the glass half full no matter what happens to them.

3. FORGIVENESS vs. UNFORGIVENESS. Really happy people know that it’s not healthy to hold on to anger. They choose to FORGIVE and FORGET, understanding that FORGIVENESS is a gift they give to themselves first and foremost.

“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”Buddha

4. TRUST vs. DOUBT. They trust themselves and they trust the people around them. No matter if they talk to the cleaning lady or the C.E.O. of a multi billion company, somehow they always seem make the person they are interacting with feel like there is something unique and special about them.

They understand that beliefs become self-fulfilling prophecies, and because of that, they make sure to treat everybody with love, dignity and respect, making no distinctions between age, sex, social status, color, religion or race. These are the great men that Mark Twain was talking about: “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.” Mark Twain

5. MEANING vs. AMBITION. They do the things they do because of the meaning it brings into their lives and because they get a sense of purpose by doing so. They understand that “Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life” like Wayne Dyer puts it, and they care more about living a life full of meaning rather than, what in our modern society we would call, living a successful life.

The irony here is that most of the time they get both, success and meaning, just because they choose to focus on doing the things they love the most and they always pursue their heart desires. They are not motivated by money; they want to make a difference in the lives of those around them and in the world.

6. PRAISING vs. CRITICIZING. Happy people would probably agree with Carl’s Jung theory on resistance: “What you resist not only persists, but will grow in size”. They don’t criticize the absence of the behavior they want to reinforce, but rather, every time the behavior is present, even if it’s not that often, they know that by praising the person and the behavior, they will actually reinforce the positive behavior.

When a parent wants to make sure that his 7 years old boy will learn to always put the toys back in the box after he’s done playing with them, he will make sure not to focus on the many times the child won’t do it, criticizing him and his behavior, but rather, every time the little boy does put the toys back, the parent will praise him and his behavior and that is exactly how he will reinforce the positive behavior, and in the end geting the wanted results.

7. CHALLENGES vs. PROBLEMS. Happy people will see PROBLEMS as CHALLENGES, as opportunities to explore new ways of doing things, expressing their gratitude for them, understanding that underneath them all lies many opportunities that will allow them to expand and to grow.

8. SELFLESSNESS vs. SELFISHNESS. They do what they do not for themselves, but for the good of others, making sure that they bring meaning, empowerment and happiness in the lives of many. They look for ways to give and to share the best of themselves with the world and to make other people happy.

”Before giving, the mind of the giver is happy; while giving, the mind of the giver is made peaceful; and having given, the mind of the giver is uplifted.”Buddha

9. ABUNDANCE vs. LACK/POVERTY. They have an abundant mindset living a balanced life, achieving abundance in all areas of life.

10. DREAMING BIG vs. BEING REALISTIC. These people don’t really care about being realistic. They love and dare to dream big, they always listen to their heart and intuition and the greatness of their accomplishments scares many of us.

“Dream no small dreams for they have no power to move the hearts of men.” Goethe

11. KINDNESS vs. CRUELTY. They are kind to themselves and others and they understand the power of self love, self forgiveness and self acceptance.

12. GRATITUDE vs. INGRATITUDE. No no matter where they look, no matter where they are or with who, they have this capacity of seeing beauty where most of us would only see ugliness, opportunities, where most of us would only see struggles, abundance where most of us would only see lack and they express their gratitude for them all.

13. PRESENCE/ ENGAGEMENT vs. DISENGAGEMENT. They know how to live in the present moment, appreciating what they have and where they are, while still having big dreams about the future.

“When you are present, you can allow the mind to be as it is without getting entangled in it. The mind in itself is a wonderful tool. Dysfunction sets in when you seek your self in it and mistake it for who you are.” Eckhart Tolle

14. POSITIVITY vs. NEGATIVITY. No matter what happens to them, they always seem to keep a positive perspective on everything and by doing so, they tend irritate a lot of negative and “realistic” people.

15. TAKING RESPONSIBILITY vs. BLAMING. They take full ownership over their lives and they rarely use excuses. Happy people understand that the moment you choose to blame some outside forces for whatever it is that happens to you, you are in fact giving all your power away, and they choose to keep the power for themselves and taking responsibility for everything that happens to them.
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7 Responses to “15 Powerful Things Happy People Do”

  1. bionnde5 May 1, 2012 at 1:06 pm #

    Cheri,
    That was a great piece yôu put together. Thank you for your hard work and all that you put into your page & blog. I ran across your fb page and blog by accident when looking for info for a friend of mine. What’s funny is it has touched me in ways I wouldn’t have expected. I didn’t need the info on toxic relationships for myself, it was for him. However, I was so touched by your story and there were parts I could totally relate to because I have health issues. But, it was the poems you wrote, one in particular, that impacted me and spoke to me…to my very core. I felt as if God and I were having a one on one conversation. Reading your fb page and your blog it inspired me to start my own fb page… “Riding on Wings of Angels”. I had felt the nudging of God for a few months. I remember reading on your blog… It was so healing for you. You had no clue what yôu were doing but figured it out. I CAN RELATE… Lol!! I have no idea who will even read my page, if anyone. I just know this is what God has lead me to do. I put it together last night.

    Reading this piece right now that you wrote…there were confirmations, I did what I was suppose to do! So thank you so very much for the inspiration. For the hard work you put into your page and blog. For sharing your story and letting us see your growth and how far you have come. What a blessing!!! I appreciate the pieces you put together and I enjoy your poems. It’s amazing seeing God’s hands in this considering I wasn’t going to your fb page for myself in the beginning. Lol… I believe I just had a “Godwink”… Lol!!

    God bless,
    Shannon 🙂 @ Riding on Wings of Angels
    https://www.facebook.com/RidingOnWingsOfAngels

    • justsaynototoxicrelationships May 3, 2012 at 8:00 am #

      Hi Shannon –

      You have blessed me immensely with your words! I am soo humbled that I was able to inspire you to go forward in faith to create you FB page!!! I liked it today – you did a beautiful job! Is there a Blog in your future. The last piece I posted, I did not write, I received it in my email and felt that it was really important to share, I wish I can take credit for writing it, but I can’t. I included the link where it came from in case anyone wanted to do some more exploring on the site!!

      I would love to meet you. I created a “MEET UP” group called “Just Say NO To Toxic Relationships” – our first meeting is May 16th @ 7pm @ Civic Park in Walnut Creek, I would love it if you can make it!!!

      Have a blessed day and you are on the path that God has lead you to – enjoy the journey!

      I am curious, which poem spoke to you???

      HUGS

      Cheri

  2. bionnde5 May 1, 2012 at 1:10 pm #

    Thank you Cheri… I hope my post I just wrote thanking you for inspiring me to write my own fb page posted! I loved this piece you just put together!! Thank you!!!

    Shannon 🙂 @ Riding on Wings of Angels
    https://www.facebook.com/RidingOnWingsOfAngels

    • justsaynototoxicrelationships May 3, 2012 at 8:01 am #

      You are welcome Shannon – all I did is re-posted something I received in my email! It was totally worth sharing!! Have an awesome day!

      Cheri

  3. Todd Lohenry May 2, 2012 at 3:36 am #

    Reblogged this on Todd's Perspective and commented:
    I especially like #6 and the Carl Jung quote. Thanks…

    • justsaynototoxicrelationships May 3, 2012 at 8:02 am #

      Hi Todd

      I am glad you liked – I did not write this piece, I received it in my email and felt it was worth re-posting! It is all great stuff! Have an awesome day!

      Cheri

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